ADHD – Concerta – Puberty – Mood Swings – OH MY
A few weeks later and the three of us, Pie, Me and The Dad, sat across from the ADHD specialist as he confirmed that our Pie was most definitely suffering from ADHD and prattled off the percentiles and showed us graphs and charts that illustrated the facts to us.
He sent us off with a book for the Pie to read and one for us that was full of charts and checklists that we and his teacher is to fill out to gauge his progress and symptoms.
The doctor also doubled the dose of Concerta but indicated that he probably would need several adjustments before we found the ideal dosage.
I’m sure that every parent struggles with medicating their children. Especially given the stigma of ADHD and the over diagnosis and status of “condition du jour“. Parents don’t want their kids “drugged” and the potential side effects make you think twice and three and even four times about doing it.
The thing to remember is that ADHD IS a real condition and it’s effects cause real issues for the kids and adults that are afflicted with it.
We’ve parented The Pie for over 12 years without medication, without treatment and I feel awful. How unfair of us to make him go through this without even noticing – it’s like ‘not noticing’ that a child is diabetic.
So, aside from parenting my intense high maintenance kids, I now have a nearly 13 year old boy, a teenager, smack in the middle of puberty, a couple of weeks before school starts at an all new school where he knows very few people, newly diagnosed and still digesting that he has ADHD, on medication for this ADHD. So I wasn’t terribly bowled over to find that his moods were swinging like they were being controlled by monkeys swinging on vines but I sure wasn’t happy and honestly, started to panic just a little.
I was afraid that the medication was making him worse or that he had been misdiagnosed.
The thing is he was downright awful for the last 4 or 5 days, just about as long as he’s been on the increased dose of Concerta, also the same amount of time he’s known absolutely that he has ADHD, also mere days before he starts back to school – his NEW school and also in the middle of puberty. It’s overwhelming to me as the parent, I have to assume it’s overwhelming to my near teenager.
I had to take a step backwards and pull The Dad back there with me.
We’ve decided that as is needed with much of parenting, a little detective work and a little wait and see.
Discipline is still the first action. When the pie is mean and rude and sarcastic and full of attitude – we still need to deal with it but we’ve decided we need to discipline the behaviour and work on keeping it in check without declaring a national emergency – without panicking. We need to watch, we need to see how things go after the first few days and weeks of school as he adapts to the new schedule and surroundings. We need to keep an eye on the medication and gauge the moods, are they getting worse, better, more or less frequent or severe? We need to keep notes, and keep our eyes open to know what’s REALLY going on.
We’ve decided to give it 2 weeks of observation as long as nothing gets worse.
We’ll see what happens.