Why do intense kids scream?
Yesterday The Girl and I had a deal – we were going to work on screaming. Me not doing it – her not doing it – but mostly her.
It’s gotten to the point that my neck muscles get tense the moment she gets up in the morning. Ok, well not usually the moment but very close.
The Girl is a screamer. She screams when she’s frustrated, she screams when she’s angry. And it doesn’t take much to get either of those going in her.
After our weekend camping (another story for another blog) I was ready to throw in the towel. It’s one thing to have a screamer. It’s another thing for the whole world to see it and for that same world to be watching you try to deal with it.
So yesterday morning I said to The Girl… today we’re going to work on not screaming. She agreed! lol
So throughout the day whenever she screamed I’d pull her aside and talk to her about calming down and how people don’t hear you when you scream – they only hear the scream and that if you can stay calm and ask for help nicely, people are more likely to want to help you. sigh.
I must admit that the day’s goal was semi successful. She stopped screaming sooner and I didn’t do as much of it either.
I never thought I’d say that. I never thought I’d be a screamer and I find the whole situation to be very frustrating. This isn’t the way I planned it at all!
Fortunately I know that I’m not alone in this feeling of semi failure.
I was off searching the web for information, insight and material for this site and I happened across Janene Mascarella’s article page.
In amongst a variety of information about Long Island Activities, Teen Diet issues, Keeping your family safe and other fountains of information, there are Janene’s parenting and family insights. Today, they were just what the doctor ordered.
I read her piece on perfect parenting and nodded and smirked the whole way through.
This morning, The Girl had hot dogs for breakfast. Hey… they were all beef ya know?
I’m sure that anyone who is a parent, especially the parent of a spirited child, or intense child will agree that there is no such thing as a perfect parent but Janene Mascarella says it with such “flair”!
Her other articles are good too and I’d recommend taking a look.
Check out Janene’s Parenting Column